Accepting Loss

"Whatever else, stabilizing your life means realizing that life as you knew it will never be the same.  The relationship you had, the person you loved, or the job you enjoyed are now gone.  Those relationships, people, and activities organized your life in certain ways.  Now that organization has changed.  To live in a new reality-based life, you must create a new vision based on how your loss has transformed you -  how the experience of loss has changed you as a person, as a partner, as a worker, and so on.  Only by accepting the loss and its consequences can you reach understanding, insight, and the potential to move on to the rest of your life.  And as you stabilize your life, you will once again experience the pleasures of living in ways that may have diminished during the grieving process."

-Aleta Koman
 How to Mend a Broken Heart - Letting Go and Moving On - Coping with Breakup - Separation, Divorce, Custody Disputes - Understanding the Stages of Loss - Stabilizing Your Life